How to Find Your Style (and Why You’re Not Behind)

If you’ve ever stood in front of your closet and thought, “I should have figured this out by now,” I want you to hear this loud and clear:

You’re not behind. You’re right on time.

Our style evolves just like we do. What used to work in your 30s may no longer feel aligned with who you are today. That’s not a failure—it’s growth.

In midlife, so many women find themselves in a transitional space. Maybe your body has changed. Your job has changed. Your lifestyle looks totally different.
And yet… your closet hasn’t caught up.

This is where the concept of the Style Compass comes in. It’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts we explore inside The Confident Closet, and today I’m walking you through how to create one of your own.

Watch the video below. ⬇️

What Is a Style Compass?

Your Style Compass is not a list of fashion rules. It’s not a Pinterest board. It’s not a checklist of what every woman “should” own.

Instead, it’s a guiding framework that helps you make style decisions that actually feel like you.

It’s about reconnecting with:

• Who you are now

• How you want to feel

• Where you’re going next

When you define your Style Compass, it becomes so much easier to:

• Edit your closet with clarity

• Shop with confidence

• Put together outfits that feel effortless and aligned

Real Women, Real Style Shifts

Let’s look at how this works in real life.

Susan came to me overwhelmed by a closet full of “mom clothes” even though her kids were grown and she was launching her own business. We created her compass using three simple words: Bold, Modern, Powerful. Suddenly, everything in her closet had to pass that vibe check.

Angela was fresh out of a long marriage and rediscovering herself. Her compass? Vibrant, Artistic, Feminine. Instead of feeling stuck, she started having fun with color, print, and texture again.

Your Style Compass might include words like:

• Confident

• Playful

• Grounded

• Effortless

• Creative

• Chic

• Relaxed

• Sophisticated

There’s no wrong answer—just what feels true to you right now.

You’re Not Behind. You’re Becoming.

One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is that we should have figured this out by now.

But the truth is: Style is not a destination—it’s a reflection of your evolution.

"You are not late. You are not early. You are exactly where you need to be."

Midlife is the perfect time to reconnect with your style because you finally have the wisdom, the confidence, and the perspective to do it on your own terms.

No more dressing for someone else’s version of you.

Ready to Define Your Compass?

I’ve created a simple, free resource to help you get started:
✨ Download the Quick Start Style Guide 
Inside, you’ll walk through a few gentle but powerful exercises to begin crafting your personal style compass.

And if you’re ready to go deeper—to clean out the chaos, fall back in love with getting dressed, and build a closet that actually works for your life—then you’ll definitely want to join the waitlist for The Confident Closet . Doors open soon, and trust me, you don’t want to miss it.

Final Thoughts

You don’t need a bigger closet. You need a clearer compass.

You don’t need to follow someone else’s rules. You need to listen to your own voice.

And you’re not behind. You’re becoming.
And I’m so glad you’re here.